Ivan Goncharov quotes

It is a trick among the dishonest to offer sacrifices that are not needed, or not possible, to avoid making those that are required.
-- Ivan Goncharov

#Integrity #Sacrifice #Negotiation

A close, daily intimacy between two people has to be paid for: it requires a great deal of experience of life, logic, and warmth of heart on both sides to enjoy each other’s good qualities without being irritated by each other’s shortcomings and blaming each other for them.
-- Ivan Goncharov

#Heart #Two #People

When you don't know what you're living for, you don't care how you live from one day to the next. You're happy the day has passed and the night has come, and in your sleep you bury the tedious question of what you lived for that day and what you're going to live for tomorrow.
-- Ivan Goncharov

#Sleep #Night #One Day

I expected so much from life and if I had not seen it so close, I would to this day be expecting something. What treasures I discovered in my own soul - where are they all? I have exchanged them for the world's coin, given my frankness, my first passion - and for what? For bitter disillusionment, for the knowledge that all is deception, all is brittle, that one can place trust neither in oneself nor in others - and I have come to fear both others and myself. I have not been able, along with this analysis, to accept the trifles of life and be content with them, as many others do.
-- Ivan Goncharov

#Passion #Soul #Deception

Yesterday one has wished, to-day one attains the madly longed-for object, and to-morrow one will blush to think that one ever desired it.
-- Ivan Goncharov

#Thinking #Yesterday #Morrow

Memories are the height of poetry only when they are memories of happiness. When they graze wounds over which scars have formed they become an aching pain.
-- Ivan Goncharov

#Pain #Memories #Height

The trouble is that no devastating or redeeming fires have ever burnt in my life.... My life began by flickering out.
-- Ivan Goncharov

#Life #Passion #Fire

You can tell the size of a man by the size of the thing that makes him mad.

Lying is done with words and also with silence.

A quiet mind married to integrity of heart is the birth of wisdom.

You are in integrity when the life you are living on the outside matches who you are on the inside.

My beautiful soul,"he murmured and caressed my cheek."When you have the ultimate selfless sacrifice it paid my wrong.You proved to be worthy of my devotion.Of Death's...love.

The whole history of Israel, its ritual and its government, is explicable only as it is typical of the spiritual Israel, of the sacrifice on Calvary, of the precious blood which alone can wash away sin.

Everything eaten is killed. Every meal is a sacrifice.

Grant graciously what you cannot refuse safely and conciliate those you cannot conquer.

Business, numbers, negotiations, all that stuff I wouldn't go near.

Any relationship that you have is about negotiation - anything - whether there is a written contract or not.