Marshall B. Rosenberg Quotes and Sayings - Page 1

“Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Expression #Criticism

“All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Encouragement #Pain #Believe

“Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Giving #Empathy #Humans

“When our communication supports compassionate giving and receiving, happiness replaces violence and grieving.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Happiness #Communication #Grieving

“The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #May #Behavior

“Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing. Instead of offering empathy, we often have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling. Empathy, however, calls upon us to empty our mind and listen to others with our whole being.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Strong #Offering #Giving

“If we want to be compassionate we must be conscious of the words we use. We must both speak and listen from the heart.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Heart #Want #Use

“When you ride the wave, the thrill is so exhilarating that you forget everything else. You live in the moment where nothing else matters, so intent on riding the wave perfectly that you and the wave become one. Pain and worry disappear, replaced by euphoria, akin to flow. Similarly, when giving empathy, you want to strive for this kind of total presence for the person you are listening to.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Pain #Giving #Worry

“The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Honesty #Communication #Order

“Empathy lies in our ability to be present without opinion.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Lying #Empathy #Opinion

“We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Thinking #Nonviolent Communication

“Punishment is the root of violence on our planet.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Punishment #Roots

“Whether I praise or criticize someone's action, I imply that I am their judge, that I'm engaged in rating them or what they have done.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Judging #Done

“At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Needs #Fulfilled

“Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Pain #Communication #Punishment

“To practice the process of conflict resolution, we must completely abandon the goal of getting people to do what we want.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Practice #Goal #People

“Never question the beauty of what you are saying because someone reacts with pain, judgment, criticism. It just means they have not heard you.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Pain #Communication #Mean

“Blaming and punishing others are superficial expressions of anger.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Expression #Blame

“When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Compassion #Judging #Focus

“It's never what people do that makes us angry; it's what we tell ourselves about what they did.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Anger #People #Angry

“Use the words "I feel because I" to remind us that what we feel it isn't because of what the other person did, but because of a choice I've made.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Choices #Use

“When we judge others we contribute to violence.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Judging #Violence

“It may be most difficult to empathize with those we are closest to.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Empathy #May #Difficult

“Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Empathy #Protect

“The Chinese philosopher Chuang-Tzu stated that true empathy requires listening with the whole being: The hearing that is only in the ears is one thing. The hearing of the understanding is another. But the hearing of the spirit is not limited to any one faculty, to the ear, or to the mind. Hence it demands the emptiness of all the faculties. And when the faculties are empty, then the whole being listens. There is then a direct grasp of what is right there before you that can never be heard with the ear or understood with the mind.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Empathy #Understanding #Listening

“Often, instead of offering empathy, we have a strong urge to give advice or reassurance and to explain our own position or feeling.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Strong #Offering #Giving

“Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Expression #Needs

“Depression is the reward we get for being 'good'.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Rewards #Nonviolent Communication

“People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Pain #Communication #People

“How I choose to look at any situation will greatly affect whether I have the power to change it or make matters worse.”
-- Marshall B. Rosenberg

#Communication #Looks #Matter