Merle Shain Quotes and Sayings - Page 1
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“Loving can cost a lot but not loving always cost more.”
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“One often learns more from ten days of agony than from ten years of contentment.”
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“There are really only two ways to approach life - as victim or as gallant fighter - and you must decide if you want to act or react, deal your own cards or play with a stacked deck. And if you don't decide which way to play with life, it always plays with you.”
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“Friends are like windows through which you see out into the world and back into yourself. If you don't have friends you see much less than you otherwise might.”
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“Our strength is in our dreams, and those who do not dare to dream damn themselves.”
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“One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you, and while nothing in your life is reversible, you can reverse it nevertheless.”
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“Friends are people who help you be more yourself, more the person you are intended to be.”
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“One can never change the past, only the hold it has on you.”
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“The conflict between what one is and who one is expected to be touches all of us. And sometimes, rather than reach for what one could be, we choose the comfort of the failed role, preferring to be the victim of circumstance, the person who didn't have a chance.”
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“The roots of love sink down and deep and strike out far, and they are arteries that feed our lives, so we must see that they get the water and sun they need so they can nourish us. And when you put something good into the world, something good comes back to you.”
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“There are some decisions in life that only you can make.”
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“The answer doesn't lie in learning how to protect ourselves from life-it lies in learning how to become strong enough to let a bit more of it in.”
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“It takes great generosity to accept generosity.”
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“It takes a lot of mulch, love does, to create a froth.”
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“Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.”
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“Each of us is a seed, a silent promise, and it is always Spring.”
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“Life is like fording a river, stepping from one slippery stone to another, and you must rejoice every time you don't lose your balance, and learn to laugh at all the times you do.”
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“Until you divest yourself of the notion that you are a collection of needs, an empty vessel that someone else must fill up, there will be no safe place to harbor yourself, no safe shore to reach. As long as you think mostly of getting, you will have nothing real to give.”
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“Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you’d like them to be, although often they turn out the same”
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“The people in your life are like the pillars on your porch. Sometimes they hold you up, and sometimes they lean on you. Sometimes it's enough to know they are standing by.”
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“Our times are obsessed with finding fulfillment, so there are times when some people try too hard, and there are people who want to have the newest feelings just as there are those who want to have the latest model car. You can't play at love any more than you can be proud of your humility, or add water to your perfume and have it smell the same, but men and women both have been known to try.”
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“The dream of romantic love is taken more seriously in North America than it is anywhere else in the world, which is why we believe in fidelity and why we believe in infidelity as well. It is also, of course, what makes our divorce rate as high as it is. Falling in love at first sight and instant gratification are part of the world in which we live, so there are people who believe adamantly in fidelity. They just don't believe in it for long.”
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“I'm not sure there can be loving without commitment, although commitment takes all kinds of forms, and there can be commitment for the moment as well as commitment for all time. The kind that is essential for loving marriages - and love affairs, as well - is a commitment to preserving the essential quality of your partner's soul, adding to them as a person rather than taking away.”
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“The day you spend hoping, the day you spend waiting, the day you spend in despair, is a day in your life as much as the tomorrow you hope for, but which may never come, so betting today on tomorrow is always a bad bet.”
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“The older I get, the clearer it becomes to me that no one is cheated in this world, unless it's by himself.”
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“There are problems connected with infidelity and problems connected with being faithful at any cost, and I am for letting those concerned choose the problems they'd prefer. There need not be one rule for all. Infidelity is enlarging and fragmenting and very very dangerous, but it has been known to retrieve people as well as marriages, so it can't be only bad.”
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“We marry to grow up, to escape our parents and to inherit our share of the world, not knowing who we are and who we will become, so it is left to marriage to make it clear which ones of us are growing in the same directions and which are ships meant to have passed in the night.”
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“Marriage is supposed to do everything, like Duz, which is more than half its problem. It is said to save us, define us, give us purpose, keep us from loneliness, and incidentally balance our diet and wash our socks, and when it doesn't, we get divorced.”
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“Men who take advantage of one woman take advantage of them all ...”
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“The best kind of men have a certainty in themselves that isn't done in when countered by a certainty in their women, and they are much adored.”
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