Judy Tatelbaum Quotes:

We learn to face the reality and the pain of our loss, to say good-bye to the dead loved one, to restore ourselves, and to reinvest in life once again.

source: - Judy Tatelbaum (2009). “The Courage to Grieve: The Classic Guide to Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief”, p.7, Harper Collins

Topics: Pain, Loss, Reality

Although our love never dies, the pain of our loss can eventually dissolve.

source: - Judy Tatelbaum (2009). “The Courage to Grieve: The Classic Guide to Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief”, p.8, Harper Collins

Topics: Pain, Loss, Grieving, Love Never Dies

Our misconception is in imagining that our suffering or how intensely or how long we grieve is a measure of how much we loved. In truth, none of us would want another's grief as a testimonial of their love for us. More likely we would want our loved ones to live healthy, fulfilled lives without us.

Topics: Grief, Grieving, Long, Testimonial, Fulfilled Life

Another misconception is that if we truly loved someone, we will never finish with our grief, as if continued sorrow is a testimonial to our love. But true love does not need grief to support its truth. Love can last in a healthy and meaningful way, once our grief is dispelled. We can honor our dead more by the quality of our continued living than by our constantly remembering the past.

Topics: Meaningful, Grief, Past, Testimonial, Remembering The Past

Appreciate life instead of resisting it.

Topics: Appreciation, Appreciate, Appreciate Life

Grief is a wound that needs attention in order to heal.

source: - Judy Tatelbaum (2009). “The Courage to Grieve: The Classic Guide to Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief”, p.9, Harper Collins

Topics: Grief, Order, Needs

Suffering is not a prerequisite for happiness.

Topics: Suffering, Prerequisites

Emotionally, grief is a mixture of raw feelings such as sorrow, anguish, anger, regret, longing, fear, and deprivation. Grief may be experienced physically as exhaustion, emptiness, tension, sleeplessness, or loss of appetite.

source: - Judy Tatelbaum (2009). “The Courage to Grieve: The Classic Guide to Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief”, p.7, Harper Collins

Topics: Regret, Grief, Loss, Sleeplessness

Though we may not always be able to avoid pain, we can choose how much we suffer.

source: - Judy Tatelbaum (2013). “You Don't Have to Suffer: A Handbook for Moving Beyond Life's Crises”, p.15, Skyhorse Publishing, Inc.

Topics: Pain, Suffering, May

Whether we experience it or not, grief accompanies all the major changes in our lives. When we realize that we have grieved before and recovered, we see that we may recover this time as well. It is more natural to recover than to halt in the tracks of grief forever. Our expectations, willingness and beliefs are all essential to our recovery from grief. It is right to expect to recover, no matter how great the loss. Recovery is the normal way .

Topics: Grief, Recovery, Loss, Major Change