"Everyone tells you to write what you know. Itâ€™s the tried-and-true advice every writer hears at some point in her career. But to take my writing to a deeper level, Iâ€™ve found that a better practice is to simply write what frightens you, haunts you, even. I now keep a sign on the bulletin board in my office that reads: 'Write What Scares You.' Iâ€™ve learned that tapping into the hard stuff â€” whether itâ€™s the fear of loss or a boogeyman lurking in childhood memories â€” is what ultimately gives a story the power to leap off the page and grab you by the collar."