Chinelo Okparanta quotes

“Shame is the power we give others to wield over us.”
-- Chinelo Okparanta

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“Happiness is like water. We’re always trying to grab onto it, but it’s always slipping between our fingers”
-- Chinelo Okparanta

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“When we live in our own privileged little bubble, it is convenient to pretend that all is well with the world, that everyone enjoys the same privileges that we do. We conveniently forget that there are others, sometimes our very own next-door neighbors, who suffer in ways that we do not.”
-- Chinelo Okparanta

Source : Source: therumpus.net

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“I realized that for many people attending a reading is like watching television at the end of a long day. They don't want to be sad but to laugh. Chances are they'll pick the sitcoms over the horror movies. So I learned that, while one's larger body of fiction can have quite a bit of sadness and conflict and tragedy in it , in a reading environment, the average audience member seems able to tolerate only a little bit of sadness. They'd much rather the reading be sexy, funny, and witty. Life is hard these days. There's more than enough sadness in the world, so I can't blame them.”
-- Chinelo Okparanta

Source : Source: therumpus.net

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“Happiness is like water. We’re always trying to grab onto it, but it’s always slipping between our fingers”
-- Chinelo Okparanta

Source : Chinelo Okparanta (2013). “Happiness, Like Water”, p.144, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt

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“Forget yourself and live for others, for It is more blessed to give than to receive.”

Source : Thomas Chalmers (1848). “Select Works of Thomas Chalmers ...: Comprising His Miscellanies; Lectures on Romans; Astronomical, Commercial and Congregational Discourses”, p.153

“We must see what in the Israeli identity - in the Israeli - we can give to other people rather than speaking so often of taking, expanding territory.”

“I love it when the Bible gives Emily Post-like tips that are both wise and easy to follow.”

“To say of shame - what is it? Of virtue - we can miss it; Of sin-we can kiss it, And it's no longer sin.”

“You cannot let your parents anywhere near your real humiliations.”

Source : "Open Secrets". Book by Alice Munro, 1994.

“Shame is the lie someone told you about yourself.”

Source : "Why Men Fall Out of Love : The Secrets They Don't Tell" by Michael French, (p. 142), 2005.

“The high-minded man is fond of conferring benefits, but it shames him to receive them.”

“This was not guilt: guilt is what you feel when you have done something wrong. What I felt was shame: I was what was wrong.”

“Childhood is what ended me up in the hospital and teetering on the edge of deathly alcoholism. It was really good for me to accept it. To accept all the embarrassment and the shame so I don't feel like I used to.”

“Shaming is one of the deepest tools of imperialist, white supremacist, capitalist patriarchy because shame produces trauma and trauma often produces paralysis.”