Candace Bushnell quotes

Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Love #Men #Fire

Just because something doesn't last forever, it doesn't mean it wasn't meaningful while it did last. It doesn't mean it wasn't important.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Life #Meaningful #Forever

Better alone than badly accompanied.
-- Candace Bushnell

Retribution is tricky. . . . The insult isn't usually worth the risk of punishment. And eventually one learns that karma has a surprising way of taking care of these situations. All you have to do is sit back and watch.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Karma #Punishment #Risk

Some people are settling down, some people are settling and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Love #Single #Butterfly

I think, when men tell women to lose weight, it's a diversion from their own lack of size in certain areas.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Men #Thinking #Weight

Whoever we are here, we might be princesses somewhere else. Or writers. Or scientists. Or presidents. Or whatever the hell we want to be that everyone else says we can't.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Princess #President #Want

Guys are like dogs: they never notice if you've changed your hair, but they can sense when there's another guy sniffing around their territory
-- Candace Bushnell

#Dog #Hair #Guy

As Im writing, certain things become clear to me and certain things begin to feel right and make sense. The pieces start to fall into place.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Fall #Writing #Pieces

Thank goodness for the first snow, it was a reminder--no matter how old you became and how much you'd seen, things could still be new if you were willing to believe they still mattered.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Believe #Winter #Snow

You don't have to do everything by the time you're 30. Or 40. All you need is a work ethic. It's what allows you to push through moments of disappointment and self-doubt and fear.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Disappointment #Self #Work Ethic

Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Relationship #Girlfriend #Soulmate

You can get used to anything, I guess, if you've been there enough.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Inspirational #Life #Enough

I don't go to parties to meet men. I go to parties to stand in a corner and watch people.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Party #Men #People

If I'm with a man, is that going to prevent me from achieving my goal? What sacrifices will I have to make in terms of being myself, if I'm with a man? Something that young women find out really quickly is that when you start dating, all of a sudden you're supposed to have a role. You're not allowed to just be yourself.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Being Yourself #Sacrifice #Men

You have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Letting Go

If you smile, even if you’re feeling bad, the action of the muscles will trick your brain into thinking you’re happy
-- Candace Bushnell

#Thinking #Feelings #Brain

Rule number one: Why is it that the one time a cute guy talks to you, you have a friend who's in crisis?
-- Candace Bushnell

#Cute #Numbers #Guy

A glittering disco ball spins from the ceiling, but the music is something I've never heard, discordant and haunting and insistent, the kind of music that demands you dance.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Balls #Demand #Haunting

Why do I keep evading my work? Is it because I’m afraid of being confronted by my lack of abilities?
-- Candace Bushnell

#Ability

Women with money and women in power are two uncomfortable ideas in our society.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Sisterhood #Ideas #Two

The universe may not always play fair, but at least it's got a hell of a sense of humor.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Play #May #Sense Of Humor

The joke that I make is that there are instances on the TV series that happen to me, - except on Sex and the City they always make it better or worse than real life and I am actually saying that in a joking way.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Sex #Real #Cities

Zizi was young and often confused about how to live his life, �and when he made a choice he clung to it with fierce resolve, �as if to beat his uncertainty into submission.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Confused #Choices #Fierce

Rule number three: Best friends always think you deserve the best guy even if the best guy barely knows you exist.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Thinking #Numbers #Guy

He leans over and kisses me. And suddenly, my life splits in two: before and after.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Kissing #Two #Kiss Me

Out of all the neighborhoods in Manhattan, Soho in particular had the charged atmosphere of a movie set, populated with passersby who looked like extras from Central Casting, so perfectly did they fit into this environment. There was the feeling of everything being not quite real, or too perfectly cliched to actually be true, and it began to rain in a fine, misty drizzle from a black patent leather sky.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Real #Rain #Sky

The most important thing to strive for in life is some kind of personal and professional achievement. Not as a man or a woman, but as a person.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Men #Important #Kind

Oh I don't plan on getting married. It's a legalized form of prostitution.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Married #Prostitution #Form

Love is spiritual. It's about self-sacrifice and commitment. And discipline. You cannot have true love without discipline and respect. When you lose the respect of your spouse, you've lost everything.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Spiritual #Commitment #Sacrifice

There are so many beautiful girls around that after a while you start looking for someone who can make you laugh
-- Candace Bushnell

#Beautiful #Girl #Laughing

Always look like you know where you're going, even when you don't
-- Candace Bushnell

#Looks #Like You

And if you were always spending your time getting over your past, how were you supposed to get on with your future?
-- Candace Bushnell

#Past #Your Past #Spending

The key to life is your attitude. Whether you're single or married or have kids or don't have kids, it's how you look at your life, what you make of it. It's about making the best of your life wherever you are in life.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Inspiring #Attitude #Kids

You don't want to peak in high school. If you do, the rest of your life is a disaster.
-- Candace Bushnell

#School #Want #Life Is

The world is full of people who all want the same thing, and you have to do a little something extra to make them remember you.
-- Candace Bushnell

#People #Littles #World

When you're alone, it's easier," she said a little wistfully. "You can do what you want. You don't have to go home.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Home #Want #Littles

We hate guys who date more than one woman at a time. I've always believed that what's unacceptable in one sex should, by definition, be unacceptable in the other.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Sex #Hate #Guy

After all, it's woman, who decide, if a man is desirable or undesirable.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Men

I didn't want it to be this way." "Yes, you did," she said, "because it is." "I just want to be with someone normal," he said. "I just want to have a normal life." "Excuse me," she said. "You're a little crazy," he said. "You're too old to act the way you do. You've got to grow up. You've got to take care of yourdelf. I'm afraid for you. You can't think that people are going to take care of you all the time.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Growing Up #Crazy #Thinking

Have I ever been in love? Really in love? And why is it that with each new guy I think I'm more in love with him than the last?
-- Candace Bushnell

#Thinking #Guy #Lasts

I've always thought there are two ways of getting what you wanted in life.Forcing people to give it to you,or making them want to give it to you.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Two #People #Giving

The '90s are really the 'Sex and the City' woman, and I think, right now, the new contemporary woman is the 'Lipstick Jungle' woman.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Sex #Thinking #Cities

Patent leather wedges-they were big when I went to prom!
-- Candace Bushnell

#Patents #Prom #Bigs

I started writing about New York as soon as I arrived. I was 19. I used to write short stories and send them out.
-- Candace Bushnell

#New York #Writing #Stories

I think a young woman's relationship with her father is really important.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Father #Thinking #Important

I'm looking forward to writing more novels for young adults.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Writing #Adults #Looking Forward

I'm really enjoying being single. I'm not even looking to meet anybody, which is so freeing.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Being Single #Enjoy

My decorating and renovation skills are nil - indeed, I once used a shower curtain from Pottery Barn as 'window dressing.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Skills #Barns #Pottery

My parents had a great marriage. Interestingly, it made it harder for me in relationships because I knew what a good relationship looked like.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Good Relationship #Parent #Great Marriage

New York is a city where people are ambitious. They want things.
-- Candace Bushnell

#New York #Cities #People

Sometimes I want to be on 'The Real Housewives of New York.' I want to remind them to figure out how to get along and support each other.
-- Candace Bushnell

#New York #Real #Support

The '80s was all about this idea that women could have it all. You could have a career, and you could have a husband, and you could have children.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Children #Husband #Careers

There's so many things that mattered so much in my 20s and 30s that don't matter now.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Matter

What I have yet to see is a real woman choose a younger man because he spent six hours a day at the gym trying to sculpt his abs.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Real #Men #Trying

I love things that are old and glittery, that come with layers of glamour and past lives.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Past #Layers #Glamour

I love Chicago. I lived there briefly for three months and kept a boat under one of those space-age buildings. It was very Jetsons.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Space #Age #Chicago

I know I'm not a wordsmith. And I don't write poetry. Sometimes I think I should, because it's really helpful. But I always wanted to write novels.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Writing #Thinking #Helpful

Happiness comes out of being willing to do your work in your twenties to find out who you are, what you love.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Twenties #Willing #Who You Are

For me, having it all is being paid to write novels.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Writing #Novel

This is the most powerful thing I can do! I'm going to be a writer.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Powerful #Most Powerful

There's a brief moment when you first wake up, where you have no memories. A blissful blank slate, a happy emptiness.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Happy #Memories #Wake Up

What Sex and the City did for sex and relationships, Lipstick Jungle does for success and power.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Sex #Cities #Doe

Sex and the City was about looking for Mr Big and trying to find him.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Sex #Cities #Trying

Sometimes you have to find the passion. It comes from the inside... Everyone has to find it for themselves.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Passion #Sometimes

Ever since I can remember I was telling stories and had a huge interest in other people and what made them tick.
-- Candace Bushnell

#People #Stories #Remember

I always thought that there was a really good chance that I wasn't going to get married.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Chance #Married

I have a house in the Connecticut countryside where you'll always find me, summer or winter.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Summer #Winter #House

I have to tell you, TV is an incredibly difficult medium. The most challenging show to do is the hour long dramedy. It's a very tricky format.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Long #Challenges #Tvs

We're comfortable with movie stars having money. We're comfortable with a woman marrying a rich guy and having money. We're not so comfortable with a woman independently working in business and making a lot of money.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Stars #Independent Women #Guy

I can only hope he's an Aries and not a Scorpio.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Scorpios #Aries

'Lipstick Jungle' was on the air for 20 episodes - I loved 'Lipstick Jungle.'
-- Candace Bushnell

#Air #Episodes #Jungle

It was scary how a girl couldn't live without friends.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Girl #Scary

A writer must be fearless. A writer has to be like a clawed animal." -The Carrie Diaries pg. 337
-- Candace Bushnell

#Animal #Fearless #Diaries

When it comes to people -- don't write about who you know; but what you know of human nature.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Writing #People #Who You Know

... he was juggling issues and solving problems, which was why his brain had no space left for memories.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Memories #Space #Issues

In life,there are only four kinds of girls: The girl who played with fire. The girl who opened Pandora's Box. The girl who gave Adam the apple. And the girl whose best friend stole her boyfriend.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Girl #Apples #Fire

Money follows art. Money wants what it can't buy. Class and talent. And remember while there's a talent for making money, it takes real talent to know how to spend it.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Art #Money #Real

Funny always makes the bad things go away.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Going Away

All men are a disappointment. No matter what anyone says.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Disappointment #Men #Matter

Why do magazines do this to women? It's all about creating insecurity. Trying to make women feel like they're not good enough. And when women don't feel like they're good enough, guess what? Men win. That's how they keep us down.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Winning #Men #Creating

maybe he's falling in love with the idea of falling in love with me. Maybe he wants to be in love with someone and I've ended up in the right place at the right time.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Falling In Love #Ideas #Want

The heart wants what the heart wants
-- Candace Bushnell

#Heart #Want

I don't consider my work a job. I consider it a career. And you don't quit a career.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Jobs #Careers #Quitting

I'm certainly not going to put my life on hold for him.
-- Candace Bushnell

sometimes the best thing to do is to pretend it didn't happen
-- Candace Bushnell

#Sometimes

If a woman could take care of herself, would she still need a man? Would she even want one? And if she didn't want a man, what kind of woman would she be? Would she even be a woman? Because it seemed if you were a woman, the only thing you were really supposed to want was a man.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Men #Needs #Care

At first, being with Sebastian was like being in the middle of the best dream I'd ever had - but now it mostly feels exhausting. I'm up one minute and down the next; questioning what I say and do. Even questioning my sanity.
-- Candace Bushnell

#Dream #Next #Firsts

I started working for the 'NY Observer' when I was 33. After I had been writing for them for about a year and a half the editor said, 'Your stories are the most talked about stories in the 'Observer'; you should have your own column.'
-- Candace Bushnell

#Writing #Years #Editors