Shashi Deshpande quotes

“A wife should always be few feet behind her husband. If he is an MA you should be a BA.If he is 5'4'tall you shouldn't be more than 5'3'tall. If he is earning five hundred rupees you should never earn more than four hundred and ninety nine rupees.That's the only rule to follow if you want a happy marriage...No partnership can ever be equal.It will always be unequal, but take care it is unequal in favor of the husband. If the scales tilt in your favor, God help you, both of you.”
-- Shashi Deshpande

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“I don't like to call myself a feminist writer. I say I'm a feminist, but I don't write to propagate an ism.”
-- Shashi Deshpande

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“Self-revelation is a cruel process. The real picture, the real you never emerges. Looking for it is as bewildering as trying to know how you really look. Ten different mirrors show you ten different faces.”
-- Shashi Deshpande

Source : Shashi Deshpande (1989). “That Long Silence”, p.1, Penguin Books India

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“Marriage is a very strange thing. It's a very public institution, it's meant to tell the world that two people are going to live together, to declare that their children will be legal, that these children can inherit their property. It's meant for social living, to ensure that some rules are observed, so that men and women don't cross the lines drawn from them. At the same time, marriage is an intensely private affair, no outsider will know the state of some one else's marriage. It's a closed room, a locked room...”
-- Shashi Deshpande

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“Things can never be as they were. It's astonishing how we comment on change, as if change is something remarkable. On the contrary, not to change is unnatural, against nature.”
-- Shashi Deshpande

Source : Shashi Deshpande (1989). “That Long Silence”, p.47, Penguin Books India

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“. . . a friend . . . showed me the kitchen in her new home with the words, "This is my office." I knew what she meant. This is where I do the work I want to, the work I like and enjoy.”
-- Shashi Deshpande

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“It's not just that life is cruel, but that in the very process of our birth we submit to life's cruelty”
-- Shashi Deshpande

Source : Shashi Deshpande (1989). “That Long Silence”, p.102, Penguin Books India

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“I dream of a true husband—a good man, not a brute, nor a champion of men on the battlefield; I dream but of a gentle man, one who neither speaks too loud nor ignores evil. I pray for such a like-minded mate, who will be ever for me like harmony to music, virtue to the soul, prosperity to the state, and forethought to the universe.”

“I go home at the end of the day and I rarely talk about what I did that day. So my wife's experience is just like that of anybody else whose husband goes away to a blue collar job and comes home bruised and dirty and often proud of the work that they're doing.”

“Woman's work as a listener is never done. ... I thought I'd spent too much of my life listening for some damn man - for my father and now for my husband.”

“Divorce is never easy, but it's even more painful when you find out your husband is having an affair with a beautiful model fifteen years younger than you.”

“At the end of the day, photography is ninety-nine percent business, connections, and politics and one percent creativity.”

“Lets have faith that right makes might; and in that faith let us, to the end, dare to do our duty as we understand it.”

“My new shorty got a gymnastic back, '87 emerald green on a classic Jag. She had the cleft palate, I ordered chef's salad; She had the club foot, with that little arm, I couldn't help but laugh...she ordered Chicken Parm.”

“We must in imagination sweep off the drifted matter that clogs the surface of the ground; we must suppose all the covering of moss and heath and wood to be torn away from the sides of the mountains, and the green mantle that lies near their feet to be lifted up; we may then see the muscular integuments, and sinews, and bones of our mother Earth, and so judge of the part played by each of them during those old convulsive movements whereby her limbs were contorted and drawn up into their present posture.”

“Where there is a will there is a lawsuit.”

Source : Samuel Smiles (2014). “Self-Help”, p.156, Cambridge University Press

“Better to die on your feet than live on your knees.”

Source : Aeschylus (1984). “The Oresteia: Agamemnon; The Libation Bearers; The Eumenides”, p.135, Penguin