Daniel Goleman quotes

  • True compassion means not only feeling another's pain but also being moved to help relieve it.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Pain #Mean #Compassion

  • Self-absorption in all its forms kills empathy, let alone compassion. When we focus on ourselves, our world contracts as our problems and preoccupations loom large. But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection - or compassionate action.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Compassion #Our World #Self

  • If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Smart #Emotional #Self

  • Societies can be sunk by the weight of buried ugliness.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Peace #War #Weight

  • People who are optimistic see a failure as due to something that can be changed so that they can succeed next time around, while pessimists take the blame for the failure, ascribing it to some characteristic they are helpless to change.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Optimistic #People #Next

  • Simple inattention kills empathy, let alone compassion. So the first step in compassion is to notice the other's need. It all begins with the simple act of attention.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Simple #Compassion #Empathy

  • Green is a process, not a status. We need to think of 'green' as a verb, not an adjective.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Thinking #Needs #Adjectives

  • There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional empathy... They're controlled by different parts of the brain.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Zero #Emotional #Empathy

  • Emotional 'literacy' implies an expanded responsibility for schools in helping to socialize children. This daunting task requires two major changes: that teachers go beyond their traditional mission and that people in the community become more involved with schools as both active participants in children's learning and as individual mentors.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Teacher #Children #School

  • There is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Skills #Fundamentals #Psychological

  • People tend to become more emotionally intelligent as they age and mature.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Intelligent #People #Age

  • A little girl who finds a puzzle frustrating might ask her busy mother (or teacher) for help. The child gets one message if her mother expresses clear pleasure at the request and quite another if mommy responds with a curt 'Don't bother me - I've got important work to do.'
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Girl #Mother #Teacher

  • The emotional brain responds to an event more quickly than the thinking brain.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Business #Emotional #Thinking

  • What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills - your EQ - not just purely cognitive abilities that are measured by conventional IQ tests.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Character #Emotional #Skills

  • Want a happier, more content life? I highly recommend the down-to-earth methods you'll find in 'Mindfulness.' Professor Mark Williams and Dr Danny Penman have teamed up to give us scientifically grounded techniques we can apply in the midst of our everyday challenges and catastrophes.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Giving #Challenges #Everyday

  • Empathy represents the foundation skill for all the social competencies important for work.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Skills #Empathy #Important

  • The other thing is that if you rely solely on medication to manage depression or anxiety, for example, you have done nothing to train the mind, so that when you come off the medication, you are just as vulnerable to a relapse as though you had never taken the medication.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Taken #Anxiety #Mind

  • Emotional self-control-- delaying gratification and stifling impulsiveness- underlies accomplishment of every sort
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Emotional #Self #Accomplishment

  • Cognitive skills such as big-picture thinking and long-term vision were particularly important. But when I calculated the ratio of technical skills, IQ, and emotional intelligence as ingredients of excellent performance, emotional intelligence proved to be twice as important as the others for jobs at all levels.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Jobs #Emotional #Thinking

  • One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Focus #Way #Distraction

  • I would say that IQ is the strongest predictor of which field you can get into and hold a job in, whether you can be an accountant, lawyer or nurse, for example.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Jobs #Feet #Nurse

  • In the new workplace, with its emphasis on flexibility, teams and a strong customer orientation, this crucial set of emotional competencies is becoming increasingly essential for excellence in every job in every part of the world.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Strong #Jobs #Team

  • The basic premise that children must learn about emotions is that all feelings are okay to have; however, only some reactions are okay.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Children #Feelings #Emotion

  • The more socially intelligent you are, the happier and more robust and more enjoyable your relationships will be.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Intelligent #Robust #Enjoyable

  • Gifted leadership occurs when heart and head--feeling and thought--meet. These are the two winds that allow a leader to soar.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Heart #Wind #Two

  • Mindful meditation has been discovered to foster the ability to inhibit those very quick emotional impulses.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Emotional #Meditation #Impulse

  • The act of compassion begins with full attention, just as rapport does. You have to really see the person. If you see the person, then naturally, empathy arises. If you tune into the other person, you feel with them. If empathy arises, and if that person is in dire need, then empathic concern can come. You want to help them, and then that begins a compassionate act. So I'd say that compassion begins with attention.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Compassion #Empathy #Needs

  • Whoever has the mind to fight has broken his connection with the universe. If you try to dominate people you are already defeated. We study how to resolve conflict, not how to start it.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Fighting #People #Broken

  • Emotional self-awareness is the building block of the next fundamental emotional intelligence: being able to shake off a bad mood.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Perseverance #Block #Emotional

  • Comparing the three domains, I found that for jobs of all kinds, emotional competencies were twice as prevalent among distinguishing competencies as were technical skills and purely cognitive abilities combined. In general the higher a position in an organization, the more EI mattered: for individuals in leadership positions, 85 percent of their competencies were in the EI domain.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Jobs #Emotional #Skills

  • Women, on average, tend to be more aware of their emotions, show more empathy, and are more adept interpersonally. Men on the other hand, are more self-confident and optimistic, adapt more easily, and handle stress better.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Stress #Optimistic #Men

  • The task of worrying is to come up with positive solutions for life's perils by anticipating dangers before they arise. If we are preoccupied by worries, we have that must less attention to expend on figuring out the answers. Our worries become self-fulfilling prophecies, propelling us toward the very disaster they predict.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Self #Worry #Tasks

  • At last, psychology gets serious about glee, fun, and happiness. Martin Seligman has given us a gift-a practical map for the perennial quest for a flourishing life.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Life #Fun #Psychology

  • The Harvard Business Review recently had an article called 'The Human Moment,' about how to make real contact with a person at work: ... The fundamental thing you have to do is turn off your BlackBerry, close your laptop, end your daydream and pay full attention to the person.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Real #Technology #Attention

  • The near cousin of optimism is hope: knowing the steps needed to get to a goal and having the energy to pursue those steps. It is a primal motivating force, and its absence is paralyzing.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Cousin #Knowing #Goal

  • Our passions, when well exercised, have wisdom; they guide our thinking, our values, our survival.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Inspirational #Passion #Thinking

  • There is a newly coined word in the English language for the moment when the person we're with whips out their BlackBerry or answers that cell phone, and all of a sudden we don't exist. The word is 'pizzled': it's a combination of puzzled and pissed off.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Technology #Phones #Cells

  • Positive work environments outperform negative work environments.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Being Positive #Negative #Positive Work

  • For the High Achievers, Studying Gave Them The Pleasing, Absorbing Challenge of Flow Percent of the Hours They Spent as It.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Achievement #Challenges #Flow

  • Our genetic heritage endows each of us with a series of emotional set-points that determines our temperament. But the brain circuitry involved is extraordinarily malleable; temperament is not destiny.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Destiny #Emotional #Brain

  • The ability to handle stress increases with the practice of meditation. In a culture like ours in which inner, spiritual growth is totally neglected in favor of materialistic pursuits, we might have something to learn from the Hare Krishna devotees' meditational practices.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Spiritual #Stress #Practice

  • Who does not recall school at least in part as endless dreary hours of boredom punctuated by moments of high anxiety?
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #School #Boredom #Anxiety

  • The people we get along with, trust, feel simpatico with, are the strongest links in our networks
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #People #Links #Feels

  • Daydreaming defeats practice; those of us who browse TV while working out will never reach the top ranks. Paying full attention seems to boost the mind's processing speed, strengthen synaptic connections, and expand or create neural networks for what we are practicing.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Motivational #Practice #Work Out

  • What seems to set apart those at the very top of competitive pursuits from others of roughly equal ability is the degree to which, beginning early in life, they can pursue an arduous practice routine for years and years.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Years #Practice #Degrees

  • When we focus on others, our world expands.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Our World #Focus #World

  • Educators, long disturbed by schoolchildren's lagging scores in math and reading, are realizing there is a different and more alarming deficiency: emotional literacy. And while laudable efforts are being made to raise academic standards, this new and troubling deficiency is not being addressed in the standard school curriculum. As one Brooklyn teacher put it, the present emphasis in schools suggests that "we care more about how well schoolchildren can read and write than whether they'll be alive next week."
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Education #Teacher #Reading

  • Attention is a little-noticed and underrated mental asset.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Attention #Littles #Assets

  • A leader tuned out of his internal world will be rudderless; one blind to the world of others will be clueless; those indifferent to the larger systems within which they operate will be blindsided.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Clueless #Leader #World

  • Like secondhand smoke, the leakage of emotions can make a bystander an innocent casualty of someone else's toxic state.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Bystanders #Toxic #Emotion

  • For better or worse, intelligence can come to nothing when emotions hold sway.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Emotion

  • Happy, calm children learn best
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Children #Calm #Classroom

  • Research shows that for jobs of all kinds, emotional intelligence is twice as important an ingredient of outstanding performance as cognitive ability and technical skill combined.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Jobs #Emotional #Skills

  • Shipping by sea produces 1/60 the emissions of shipping by air and about 1/5 that of trucking.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Air #Sea #Environmental

  • Emotional self-control is NOT the same as overcontrol, the stifling of all feeling and spontaneity....when such emotional suppression is chronic, it can impair thinking, hamper intellectual performance and interfere with smooth social interaction. By contrast, emotional competence implies we have a choice as to how we express our feelings.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Emotional #Thinking #Self

  • Scheduling down time as part of your routine is hard but worth it, personally, even professionally.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Routine #Worth It

  • Companies in the East put a lot more emphasis on human relationships, while those from the West focus on the product, the bottom line. Westerners appear to have more of a need for achievement, while in the East there's more need for affiliation.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Focus #Achievement #East

  • But there has also been a notable increase in recent years of these applications by a much wider slice of psychotherapists - far greater interest than ever before.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Years #Notable #Increase

  • Smart phones and social media expand our universe. We can connect with others or collect information easier and faster than ever.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Smart #Phones #Media

  • Brain studies of mental workouts in which you sustain a single, chosen focus show that the more you detach from what's distracting you and refocus on what you should be paying attention to, the stronger this brain circuitry becomes.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Workout #Focus #Brain

  • As a freshman in college, I was having a lot of trouble adjusting. I took a meditation class to handle anxiety. It really helped. Then as a grad student at Harvard, I was awarded a pre-doctoral traveling fellowship to India, where my focus was on the ancient systems of psychology and meditation practices of Asia.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #College #Practice #Class

  • When it comes to exploring the mind in the framework of cognitive neuroscience, the maximal yield of data comes from integrating what a person experiences - the first person - with what the measurements show - the third person.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Yield #Data #Mind

  • When I went on to write my next book, Working With Emotional Intelligence, I wanted to make a business case that the best performers were those people strong in these skills.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Strong #Book #Writing

  • While there I began to study the Asian religions as theories of mind.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #Mind #Asian #Study

  • Western business people often don't get the importance of establishing human relationships.
    -- Daniel Goleman

    #People #Importance #Western