All children in the '50s were taught manners, they were taught to say please and thank you, they were taught not to be rude. And I'm seeing some problems today where somebody's losing a job because they made fun of a fat lady that couldn't fit in the elevator. I mean that was the sort of thing that, when I was eight years old, my mother made it very clear to me that that was not okay to say that kind of stuff.
- Temple Grandin
source: "Talk of the Nation" with Ira Flatow, www.npr.org. January 20, 2006.
topic: Mother, Jobs, Children, Not Okay, Please And Thank You
I think people are naturally good, I see it every day. Look at this restaurant. No one's causing anybody any trouble in here. We're all sitting, respecting each other's space, we're keeping our voices down, we're saying "please" and "thank you" - those are acts of generosity that we commit on a second by second basis that we don't give ourselves enough credit for. There's a lot of kindness in this world, we're just such vain creatures; our vanity can be used against us so easily. We're like dogs, hairless dogs.
- Torquil Campbell
topic: Dog, Kindness, Thinking, Please And Thank You, Saying Please
I'm going to show you a technology today which takes insults and criticisms out of the airwaves. (Marshall puts on giraffe ears) With this technology, it will be impossible for you to hear criticisms, harsh remarks, or insults. All you can hear is what all people are ever saying, "please" and "thank you". What used to sound like criticism, judgment, or blame, you will see, are really tragic, suicidal expressions of "please".
- Marshall B. Rosenberg
topic: Communication, Suicidal, Technology, Please And Thank You, Saying Please
Working- and Middle-class families sat down at the dinner table every night - the shared meal was the touchstone of good manners. Indeed, that dinner table was the one time when we were all together, every day: parents, grandparents, children, siblings. Rudeness between siblings, or a failure to observe the etiquette of passing dishes to one another, accompanied by "please" and "thank you," was the training ground of behavior, the place where manners began.
- Larry McMurtry
source: Larry McMurtry (1999). “Walter Benjamin at the Dairy Queen: Reflections at Sixty and Beyond”
topic: Children, Sibling, Night, Middle Class Family, Dinner Table
If we have a decent sort of cat to begin with, and have always treated it courteously, and aren't cursed with meddling, bullying natures, it's a pleasure to let it do as it pleases. With children, this would be wicked and irresponsible, so raising children involves a lot of effort and friction. They need to be taught how to tie their shoes and multiply fractions, they need to be punished for pocketing candy in the grocery store, they need to be washed and combed and forced to clean up their rooms and say please and thank you. A cat is our relief and our reward.
- Barbara Holland
source: Barbara Holland (1989). “Secrets of the Cat: It's [sic] Lore, Legend, and Lives”
topic: Bullying, Children, Cat, Please And Thank You