Alfie Kohn Quotes and Sayings - Page 1
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“If I offered you a thousand dollars to take off your shoes, you'd very likely accept--and then I could triumphantly announce that 'rewards work.' But as with punishments, they can never help someone develop a *commitment* to a task or action, a reason to keep doing it when there's no longer a payoff.”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (2006). “Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason”, p.32, Simon and Schuster
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“Children, after all, are not just adults-in-the-making. They are people whose current needs and rights and experiences must be taken seriously.”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (2006). “Beyond Discipline: From Compliance to Community, 10th Anniversary Edition”, p.81, ASCD
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“Sometimes we have to put our foot down, ... but before we deliberately make children unhappy in order to get them to get into the car, or to do their homework or whatever, we need to weigh whether what we're doing to make it happen is worth the possible strain on our relationship with them.”
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“The late W. Edwards Deming, guru of Quality management, once declared, 'The most important things we need to manage can't be measured.' If that’s true of what we need to manage, it should be even more obvious that it’s true of what we need to teach.”
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“Each time I visit such a classroom, where the teacher is more interested in creating a democratic community than in maintaining her position of authority, I’m convinced all over again that moving away from consequences and rewards isn’t just realistic - it’s the best way to help kids grow into good learners and good people.”
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“Don't let anyone tell you that standardized tests are not accurate measures. The truth of the matter is they offer a remarkably precise method for gauging the size of the houses near the school where the test was administered.”
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“Most of us would protest that of course we love our children without any strings attached. But what counts is how things look from the perspective of the children”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (2011). “Feel-bad Education: And Other Contrarian Essays on Children and Schooling”, p.159, Beacon Press
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“Very few things are as dangerous as a bunch of incentive-driven individuals trying to play it safe.”
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“Unconditional parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason”
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“You have to give them unconditional love. They need to know that even if they screw up, you love them. You don't want them to grow up and resent you or, even worse, parent the way you parented them.”
-- Alfie Kohn#Growing Up Quotes #Unconditional Love Quotes #Giving Quotes
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“The value of a book about dealing with children is inversely proportional to the number of times it contains the word behavior.”
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“How we feel about our kids isn't as important as how they experience those feelings and how they regard the way we treat them.”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (2006). “Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason”, p.20, Simon and Schuster
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“Punishments erode relationships and moral growth.”
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“In outstanding classrooms, teachers do more listening than talking, and students do more talking than listening. Â Terrific teachers often have teeth marks on their tongues.”
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“Children learn how to make good decisions by making decisions, not by following directions.”
-- Alfie KohnSource : "The Homework Myth". Book by Alfie Kohn, 2006.
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“People will typically be more enthusiastic where they feel a sense of belonging and see themselves as part of a community than they will in a workplace in which each person is left to his own devices”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (1999). “Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes”, p.204, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
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“Whoever said there's no such thing as a stupid question never looked carefully at a standardized test.”
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“To be well-educated is to have the desire as well as the means to make sure that learning never ends.”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (2004). “What Does It Mean to Be Well Educated?: And More Essays on Standards, Grading, and Other Follies”, p.10, Beacon Press
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“Do rewards motivate people? Absolutely. They motivate people to get rewards.”
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“Students should not only be trained to live in a democracy when they grow up; they should have the chance to live in one today.”
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“If unconditional love and genuine enthusiasm are present, praise isn't necessary. If they're absent, praise won't help.”
-- Alfie Kohn#Unconditional Love Quotes #Enthusiasm Quotes #Helping Quotes
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“It's not just that humiliating people, of any age, is a nasty and disrespectful way of treating them. It's that humiliation, like other forms of punishment, is counterproducti ve. 'Doing to' strategies -- as opposed to those that might be described as 'working with' -- can never achieve any result beyond temporary compliance, and it does so at a disturbing cost.”
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“Those who know they're valued irrespective of their accomplishments often end up accomplishing quite a lot. It's the experience of being accepted without conditions that helps people develop a healthy confidence in themselves, a belief that it's safe to take risks and try new things.”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (2011). “Feel-bad Education: And Other Contrarian Essays on Children and Schooling”, p.109, Beacon Press
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“Punishment and reward proceed from basically the same psychological model, one that conceives of motivation as nothing more than the manipulation of behavior.”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (1999). “Punished by Rewards: The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's, Praise, and Other Bribes”, p.67, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt
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“Standardized testing has swelled and mutated, like a creature in one of those old horror movies, to the point that it now threatens to swallow our schools whole.”
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“When was the last time you spent the entire day with only 42 year olds?”
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“Educators remind us that what counts in a classroom is not what the teacher teaches; it’s what the learner learns.”
-- Alfie KohnSource : Alfie Kohn (2006). “Unconditional Parenting: Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason”, p.20, Simon and Schuster
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“Independence is useful, but caring attitudes and behaviors shrivel up in a culture where each person is responsible only for himself.”
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“Punishments and rewards are two sides of the same coin and that coin doesn't buy you much.”
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