James Gilligan quotes

  • All violence is an attempt to replace shame with self-esteem.
    -- James Gilligan

    #Self Esteem #Violence #Shame

  • I have yet to see a serious act of violence that was not provoked by the experience of feeling shamed and humiliated, disrespected and ridiculed, and that did not represent the attempt to prevent or undo this ‘loss of face’—no matter how severe the punishment, even if it includes death.
    -- James Gilligan

    #Loss #Punishment #Feelings

  • The most dangerous men on earth are those who are afraid they are wimps
    -- James Gilligan

    #Men #Wimps #Earth

  • The reason that I think it is a waste of time to engage in moral value judgements about people's violence, is because it doesn't advance by one iota our understanding of either the causes or the prevention of the violent behaviour.
    -- James Gilligan

    #Thinking #People #Understanding

  • Do we not realize that self respect comes with self reliance?

  • I love hearing my audience breathe.

  • I don’t have time to worry about something as petty as what I look like

  • I don't really need to stand out, there's room for everyone. Although I haven't built a niche yet, I'm just writing love songs.

  • In five years' time I'd like to be a mum. I want to settle down and have a family, definitely sooner rather than later. I'd like to have finished my second album too, maybe even my third. I'd like a sound that sticks around that other people are inspired by and that people know is me.

  • After decimating several vegetables, I decide juicing is my favorite form of food preparation. There's something perversely appealing about subjecting an innocent plant to that much violence.

  • Violence does not and cannot flourish by itself; it is inevitably intertwined with lying.

  • I'm not going to appeal to violence or aggression - of course not.

  • There's an obsessive quality to it that I thought I would've  grown out of by now. It's an ongoing source of shame for me.

  • Shame is an ornament to the young; a disgrace to the old.