Helen Fielding quotes

The corruption of the good by the belief in their own infallible goodnes is the most bloody dangerous pitfall in the human spectrum. Once you have conquered all your sins, pride is the one which will conquer you. A man starts off deciding he is a good man because he makes good decisions. Next thing, he's convinced that whatever decision he makes must be good because he's a good man. Most of the wars in the world are caused by people who think they have god on their side. Always stick with people who know they are flawed and ridiculous.
-- Helen Fielding

#War #Pride #Men

It seems wrong and unfair that Christmas, with its stressful and unmanageable financial and emotional challenges, should first be forced upon one wholly against one's will, then rudely snatched away just when one is starting to get into it. Was really beginning to enjoy the feeling that normal service was suspended and it was OK to lie in bed as long as you want, put anything you fancy into your mouth, and drink alcohol whenever it should chance to pass your way, even in the mornings. Now suddenly we are all supposed to snap into self-discipline like lean teenage greyhounds.
-- Helen Fielding

#Morning #Teenage #Lying

Can officially confirm that the way to a man's heart these days is not through beauty, food, sex, or alluringness of character, but merely the ability to seem not very interested in him.
-- Helen Fielding

#Sex #Heart #Character

It struck me as pretty ridiculous to be called Mr. Darcy and to stand on your own looking snooty at a party. It's like being called Heathcliff and insisting on spending the entire evening in the garden, shouting "Cathy" and banging your head against a tree.
-- Helen Fielding

#Party #Garden #Tree

It occurred to me that if Africa needed us, sometimes we needed Africa a great deal more.
-- Helen Fielding

#Sometimes #Deals #Needed

Tom has a theory that homosexuals and single women in their thirties have natural bonding: both being accustomed to disappointing their parents and being treated as freaks by society.
-- Helen Fielding

#Parent #Freak #Single Women

One must not live one's life through men but must be complete on oneself as a woman of substance.
-- Helen Fielding

#Men #Substance #Oneself

Sink into morbid, cynical reflection on how much romantic heartbreak is to do with ego and miffed pride rather than actual loss
-- Helen Fielding

#Pride #Loss #Reflection

I come from Yorkshire in England where we like to eat chip sandwiches - white bread, butter, tomato ketchup and big fat french fries cooked in beef dripping.
-- Helen Fielding

#White #Bread #England

I always market research my books before I hand them in by showing them to five or six close friends who I trust to be honest with me, so they are very heavily re-written already.
-- Helen Fielding

#Book #Hands #Research

Valentine's Day purely commercial, cynical enterprise, anyway. Matter of supreme indifference to me.
-- Helen Fielding

#Valentine #Cynical #Matter

Oh God. valentine's Day tomorrow. Why? Why? Why is (the) entire world geared to make people not involved in romance feel stupid when everyone knows romance does not work anyway. Look at (the) royal family. Look at Mum and Dad.
-- Helen Fielding

#Dad #Stupid #Valentine

..we were always taught, instead of waiting to be swept off our feet, to 'expect little, forgive much'.
-- Helen Fielding

#Feet #Waiting #Forgiving

I'm no good at anything. Not men. Not social skills. Not work. Nothing.
-- Helen Fielding

#Men #Skills #Social

Oh, God, I'm so lonely. An entire weekend streching ahead with no one to love or have fun with. Anyway, I don't care. I've got a lovely steamed ginger pudding from M&S to put in the microwave.
-- Helen Fielding

#Lonely #Fun #Weekend

When someone loves you it's like having a blanket all round your heart...
-- Helen Fielding

#Love You #Heart #Blanket

One minute you're closer to someone than anyone in the whole world, next minute they need only to say the words 'time apart', 'serious talk' or 'maybe you...' and you're never going to see them again and will have to spend the next six months having imaginary conversations in which they beg to come back, and bursting into tears at the sight of their toothbrush.
-- Helen Fielding

#Sight #Tears #Next

Singletons should not have to explain themselves all the time but should have an accepted status — like geisha girls do
-- Helen Fielding

#Girl #Accepted #Should

Women today are bombarded with so many messages, like we should have Naomi Campbell's body and Madeleine Albright's career.
-- Helen Fielding

#Careers #Body #Today

Nobody wants to be racist and I think that most people aren't.
-- Helen Fielding

#Thinking #People #Racist

My books have all generated controversy.
-- Helen Fielding

#Book #Controversy

Reminded of favorite poem by Wendy Cope which goes: At Christmas little children sing and merry bells jingle. The cold winter air makes our hands and faces tingle. And happy families go to church and cheerily they mingle, And the whole business is unbelievably dreadful if you're single.
-- Helen Fielding

#Children #Winter #Air

You'll never get a boyfriend if you look like you wandered out of Auschwitz.
-- Helen Fielding

#Looks #Like You #Auschwitz

I like you very much. Just as you are." Mark Darcy, Bridget Jones
-- Helen Fielding

#I Like You #Bridget Jones #Mark

I will not get upset over men, but instead be poised and cool ice-queen.
-- Helen Fielding

#Queens #Men #Ice

Dieting on New Year's Day isn't a good idea as you can't eat rationally but really need to be free to consume whatever is necessary, moment by moment, in order to ease your hangover. I think it would be much more sensible if resolutions began generally on January the second.
-- Helen Fielding

#New Year #Hangover #Thinking

It is a truth universally acknowledged that as soon as one part of your life starts looking up, another falls to pieces.
-- Helen Fielding

#Life #Fall #Alaska

Don't say 'what,' say 'pardon,' darling, and do as your mother tells you.
-- Helen Fielding

#Mother #Pardon #Darling

Eventually, I manage to cheer Mum up by allowing her to go through my wardrobe and criticize all my clothes...
-- Helen Fielding

#Cheer #Clothes #Criticize

9p.m. My flat. Feel very strange and empty. Is all very well thinking everything is going to be different when you come back but then it is all the same. Suppose I have to make it different. But what am I going to do with my life? I know. Will eat some cheese.
-- Helen Fielding

#Thinking #Cheese #Different

I am a child of Cosmopolitan culture, have been traumatized by supermodels and too many quizzes and know that neither my personality nor my body is up to it if left to its own devices. I can't take the pressure.
-- Helen Fielding

#Children #Personality #Culture

When someone leaves you, apart from missing them, apart from the fact that the whole little world you've created together collapses, and that everything you see or do reminds you of them, the worst is the thought that they tried you out and, in the end, the whole sum of parts adds up to you got stamped REJECT by the one you love. How can you not be left with the personal confidence of a passed over British Rail sandwich?
-- Helen Fielding

#Missing #Together #World

It is proved by surveys that happiness does not come from love, wealth, or power but the pursuit of attainable goals.
-- Helen Fielding

#Goal #Doe #Wealth

I realize it has become too easy to find a diet to fit in with whatever you happen to feel like eating and that diets are not there to be picked and mixed but picked and stuck to, which is exactly what I shall begin to do once I've eaten this chocolate croissant.
-- Helen Fielding

#Chocolate #Realizing #Eating

I looked at him nonplussed. I realized that I have spent so many years being on a diet that the idea that you might actually need calories to survive has been completely wiped out of my consciousness. Have reached point where believe nutritional idea is to eat nothing at all, and that the only reason people eat is because they are so greedy they cannot stop themselves from breaking out and ruining their diets.
-- Helen Fielding

#Believe #Weight Loss #Years

Oh God, what's wrong with me? Why does nothing ever work out?
-- Helen Fielding

#Work Out #Doe

If you ask where a relationship is going too often the question has a habit of turning into where the relationship went. Unfortunately, however, God has given women an inbuilt irresistible urge to insist on knowing where their relationships are going, and to force their partners to discuss the matter at length whenever they are late for something.
-- Helen Fielding

#Knowing #Matter #Habit

Quite quickly I grew less deranged. I had begun the process of calming down, assimilating and compromising, which is necessary to live comfortably in the world as it is, and probably is why its imbalance never changes. But underneath, my idea of life was completely altered.
-- Helen Fielding

#Ideas #Imbalance #World

As women glide from their twenties to thirties, Shazzer argues, the balance of power subtly shifts. Even the most outrageous minxes lose their nerve, wrestling with the first twinges of existential angst: fears of dying alone and being found three weeks later half-eaten by an Alsatian.
-- Helen Fielding

#Wrestling #Dying Alone #Balance

But if you are single the last thing you want is your best friend forming a functional relationship with somebody else.
-- Helen Fielding

#Want #Lasts #Your Best Friend

There are so many images pushed at women and so many ideas of what you're supposed to be. I think there's too much of this superwoman, this woman with a bottom like two billiard balls. There's no real celebration of just being a person.
-- Helen Fielding

#Real #Thinking #Ideas

Comedy tends to come out of things which are quite painful and serious.
-- Helen Fielding

#Serious #Comedy #Painful

I like L.A. It's like a mini break. For a writer, it's hilarious. Like the food. Where I come from, we eat chip sandwiches: white bread, butter, tomato catsup and big fat french fries. It's delicious. Here, you order a creme caramel and the waiter says, 'You know, that contains dairy.
-- Helen Fielding

#White #Order #Bread

I think that when you're writing fiction what you're doing is reflecting life as you see it, and putting down how you think and how other people think, and the sort of confusions that you don't normally like to admit to.
-- Helen Fielding

#Writing #Thinking #People

I was writing an earnest novel about cruises in the Caribbean and I just started writing 'Bridget Jones' to get some money, to finance this earnest work, and then I chucked it out.
-- Helen Fielding

#Writing #Finance #Bridget Jones

If we can't have comedy books written about aspects of womanhood without going into a panic attack about it, then we haven't got very far at being equal.
-- Helen Fielding

#Book #Panic Attacks #Comedy

The whole point of diaries is that other people find them and read what you've put. I did once take to writing my inner thoughts on the computer at the end of other things I was writing and ended up faxing four pages of hideous stuff to my accountant so I don't do that now.
-- Helen Fielding

#Writing #People #Diaries

It is horrid to smirk.
-- Helen Fielding

#Smirk

I hate Christmas. Everything is designed for families, romance, warmth, emotion and presents, and if you have no boyfriend, no money, your mother is going out with a missing Portuguese criminal and your friends don't want to be your friend anymore, it makes you want to emigrate to a vicious Muslim regime, where at least all the women are treated like social outcasts. Anyway, I don't care. I am going to quietly read a book all weekend and listen to classical music.
-- Helen Fielding

#Mother #Hate #Book

No one is thinking about you. They're thinking about themselves, just like you.
-- Helen Fielding

#Thinking About You #Thinking #Like You

You see, things being good has nothing to do with how you feel outside, it is all to do with how you are inside.
-- Helen Fielding

#How You Feel #Be Good #Feels

I made my excuses and left, thinking, really, after a certain age, people are just going to do what they're going to do and you're either going to accept them as they are or you're not.
-- Helen Fielding

#Thinking #People #Age

I will not Drink more than fourteen alcohol units a week.
-- Helen Fielding

#Alcohol #Drink #Week

Exes should never, never go out with or marry other people but should remain celibate to the end of their days in order to provide you with a mental fallback position.
-- Helen Fielding

#Order #People #Ends

I am brave, though I am alone.
-- Helen Fielding

#Brave

It's rather fun writing a female spy, because she has so much more kit. Bond never carried a hair dryer or a makeup bag. And he certainly didn't wear an uplift bra.
-- Helen Fielding

#Uplifting #Fun #Writing

I certainly think I'll end up writing about America in some form. I've taken plenty of notes. I like America very much.
-- Helen Fielding

#Taken #Writing #Thinking

It's amazing how much time and money can be saved in the world of dating by close attention to detail. A white sock here, a pair of red braces there, a gray slip-on shoe, a swastika, are as often as not all one needs to tell you there's no point in writing down phone numbers and forking out for expensive lunches because it's never going to be a runner.
-- Helen Fielding

#Writing #Phones #Shoes