Helen Fisher quotes
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Keep an open heart. We are wired to find love.
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Women have never been as interesting as they are now. Not at any time on this planet have women been so educated, so interesting, so capable.
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You fall in love with somebody who fits within what I call your 'love map,' an unconscious list of traits that you build in childhood as you grow up. And I also think that you gravitate to certain people, actually, with somewhat complementary brain systems.
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The main characteristics of romantic love are craving: an intense craving to be with a particular person, not just sexually, but emotionally.
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The reason you take antidepressants is to feel calm. And romantic love is not calm -it's elation, it's mood swings, and you're killing all that when you take the drug.
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You can get into a very fancy car and know everything about the engine, but when you drive in that car, you feel that rush. In the same way, I think the more you know about love, the more you can enjoy it. And knowing about your personality type, who you are and what kind of person you're dealing with gives you a great leg up.
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There's magic to love... Millions of years ago we evolved three basic drives: the sex love, romantic love, and attachment to a long-term partner. These circuits are deeply embedded in the human brian. They're going to survive as long as our species survive on what Shakespeare called, this "mortal coil."
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[Women] tend to collect more pieces of data when they think, put them into more complex patterns, see more options and outcomes. They tend to be contextual, holistic thinkers.
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Romantic love is not an emotion. ... It's a drive. It comes from the motor of the mind, the wanting part of the mind, the craving part of the mind.
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A world without love is a deadly place.
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That "ol' black magic" is a fickle force. The chemistry of romantic love can trigger the chemistry of sexual desire and the fuel of sexual desire can trigger the fuel of romance. This is why it is dangerous to copulate with someone with whom you don't wish to become involved. Although you intend to have casual sex, you might just fall in love.
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High heels can literally raise your status because you're taller when you wear them.
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There's all kinds of reasons that you fall in love with one person rather than another: Timing is important. Proximity is important. Mystery is important. You fall in love with somebody who's somewhat mysterious, in part because mystery elevates dopamine in the brain, probably pushes you over that threshold to fall in love.
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Romantic love is an addiction: a perfectly wonderful addiction when it’s going well, and a perfectly horrible addiction when it’s going poorly.
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Kissing is not just kissing. It is a major escalation or de-escalation point in a powerful process of mate choice.
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If two very different people pool their DNA, they'll create more genetic variety, and their young will come to the job of parenting with a wider array of skills.
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Women are better at reading body language everywhere in the world. As a matter of fact, it's associated with the female hormone estrogen. Women are better at figuring out of tone of voice, reading your face and posture and gesture.
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Romantic love is an obsession. It possesses you. You lose your sense of self. You can’t stop thinking about another human being.
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Any kind of novelty or excitement drives up dopamine in the brain, and dopamine is associated with romantic love.
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People live for love. They kill for love. They die for love. They have songs, poems, novels, sculptures, paintings, myths, legends. It's one of the most powerful brain systems on Earth for both great joy and great sorrow.
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Most of us make up our minds in the first three minutes of meeting someone whether there's a potential for a relationship.
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Natural beauty really entices men. They will tell you this time and time again, and studies consistently prove it.
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Any time you choose not to hide your tattoo, you're limiting your social sphere, because they're not popular in big business.
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For so many generations, a woman's only career path was to marry well and to marry up. Those days have changed.
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There exists no culture in which adultery is unknown, no cultural device or code that extinguishes philandering.
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Research shows that couples who have a lot of similarities, including intellectual compatibility, end up staying together.
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The only people you and I are likely to know in common are people in the news - politicians, journalists and celebrities.
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There's biology in everything, even when you're feeling spiritual.
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The brain was not built to walk into a bar, where you know nobody, and start a conversation. That's not the way humanity has courted.
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Scientists know that women gravitate to men who have a different immune system from theirs.
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Romantic love allows you to focus mating energy. Attachment sustains that relationship as long as necessary to raise your baby.
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Today, American women bear an average of 2.2 children that live to adulthood. Across most of Europe, women bear even fewer young.
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Until recently, we regarded love as supernatural. We were willing to study the brain chemistry of fear and depression and anger but not love.
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You know, when you've been dumped, the one thing you love to do is just forget about this human being, and then go on with your life - but no, you just love them harder.
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Young women today do not marry the men they met in high school, or even the one they go out with at college, because they do not need to.
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You size up someone physically in less than one second - too tall, too short, too fat, too thin, too old, too young, too stuffy, too scruffy.
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You don't come home from the office to spend time with another job. Hopefully you come home to someone you can have a good time with.
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Women, it turns out, are built to lead - particularly in the modern world.
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Women are naturally prone to compete over their mates.
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When you fight, anger drives up testosterone in both men and women.
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When people tell you to walk a certain way, it's like not thinking of a purple tomato. You can't not do it.
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We're not very dangerous animals; we don't have a horn like a rhino or quills like a porcupine.
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We're apt to fall in love with those who are mysterious and challenging to us.
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We spend our lives trying to get along with people so we can keep our jobs, keep our marriages together, so that we can raise our kids properly.
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We all have restlessness in long-term relationships.
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As societies continue to loosen their standards regarding what is appropriate female and male behavior, I think we are going to realize we have not only underestimated women, but also men.
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People compose poetry, novels, sitcoms - for love.
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Haiti is the poorest country in the western hemisphere; some say the poorest in the world.
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Hair that gleams can send a clear sign that you're young and in your prime, whatever your actual age.
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Globalization requires taking a broad contextual and long-term view.
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